I used to be (rightfully) tepid about wielding authority because I haven’t put in the work yet. Why do they do this? Gee, I don’t know, because it’s 1,000 times easier than working hard. Talkers use their words as a substitute for building the type of confidence and purpose that come from actually exerting effort toward an ideal or goal they care about. I’m not telling you to avoid standing up for yourself or the right causes by using your voice. You have a right to your expression and in some cases a duty. Words are powerful tools and can be used for good, even for people who aren’t writers. If none of the above were true, it wouldn’t make sense for me to spend my time waxing philosophical. My words are my work - they’re tied to my mission in life, I don’t use them lightly, and I actually get paid to say them. Here’s the difference between me and you. I’m a writer, after all, so my whole job is basically to pontificate. What does?ĭoing the work, in silence, while everyone else runs their mouth. But unmeasured pointless ranting doesn’t get me anywhere. Who doesn’t like a good soapbox? I know I do. You tell them what to believe instead of showing them why your beliefs are valid by setting a good example.ĭuring happy hour, you and your friends vent about your shitty jobs, complain about the news, and pat yourselves on the back for it. You try to convince people to share your viewpoints by word instead of deed. Where I’m from, we have a saying for this – hustling backward. You congratulate yourself for having goals, which sates you, so you don’t pursue them. Compounding the problem, talking about your goals out loud makes you feel like you’ve achieved them already. You tell your friends and family about your aspirations and are often met with indifference or even resistance - rarely the pat on the back you thought you’d get. When you embark on a new dream, path, or goal, your instinct tells you to evangelize and spread the gospel. See, you’re always tempted to talk instead of work in various ways. And keeping your mouth shut solves about eighty percent of that battle. Success is often a matter of getting out of your own way. One of your biggest distractions? Look in the mirror - specifically at the aperture seated beneath your nose and above your chin. To do the work, and do it well, you have to avoid distractions, which there are a lot of. You aspire to be something more than you are now. The Inverse Relationship Between Talking and Thriving The loudest are (usually) the weakest and the real boss opens their mouth only when they want to, never because they feel they have to.īecause I need to sink a life-changing lesson into your brain.ĭo the work instead. This theme rings true from gangster movies to boardrooms. You don’t need to tell people what you’re capable of. See, when you have real power and confidence, it’s self-evident. Paulie could walk into an auditorium filled with the most dangerous gangsters in the world - all of them jabbering at loud volumes - and he could make it go silent, all without saying a word. If he talked at all, it was either because he felt he needed to or he was legitimately exchanging pleasantries with you. He didn’t talk to people in groups - if you wanted to deal with Paulie you brought a message to him one on one. He didn’t talk on the phone - his crew members took calls on payphones and relayed messages to him in person. Some of the members of the organization were boastful, hyper-macho, and above all else loudmouths. Long story short, if you had your own crew, you earned it one way or another. Paul Vario - known as “Paulie” - was a made man and head of his own crew in the Lucchese crime family. And always keep your mouth shut.” Loudest = Weakest “Everybody gets pinched, but you did it right. Jimmy stuffs a large wad of hundred dollar bills into Henry’s shirt pocket. Having, in his mind, messed up big-time, he feared repercussion from his non-law-abiding mentors. He’d been pinched - arrested for a crime and questioned by the police - after being caught illegally selling cigarettes from the back of a truck. He’s greeted by Jimmy Conway, also a notorious gangster. Future notorious gangster Henry Hill walks out of the courtroom.
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